How a DNA exam and Facebook sleuthing helped this P.E.I. lady find her biological family

After decades of searching, Michelle Blanchard of Charlottetown finally tracked down her family, locating her biological mother, brother and sister in St. John’s.

Michelle found them in Dec with assistance from an online DNA exam and other relatives personification investigator on Facebook, and met them in early January.

“It was a many implausible day of my life,” Michelle said about a reunion.

Last September, Michelle decided to take an ancestry DNA test, that involves submitting a spit sample in a exam tube that she sent behind in a mail. Her formula arrived a month later.

“I found out we was British and Irish, not Acadian and francophone as we was raised,” she said. She had been adopted by Francis and Bertha Blanchard, who’d always been supportive of her query to find blood relatives. 

‘All paths led to Newfoundland’

The DNA contrast company’s database linked Michelle with about 1,200 people who had also purebred their DNA. Most of them were usually distantly related, yet she did find a integrate of second cousins. She reached out to people who were matches, looking for closer relatives. 

“The large surprise, as shortly as we started to bond with people, was that all paths led to Newfoundland,” she said. 

She had sought information years earlier from a Prince Edward Island government, where adoption annals are hermetic — a law that’s poised to change in 2021. Michelle had been told both her biological parents were from Nova Scotia. All she had to go on was her birth name, Karen Marie Crocker. 

“So we was off on a furious crow follow for many years before a DNA happened, looking for people in Nova Scotia,” she said. 

One of a second cousins she found, who lives in Ontario yet was creatively from Newfoundland, wanted to assistance Michelle solve a poser of her birth. She began seeking aunts, uncles and cousins if they competence know anything about a child innate in P.E.I., or outward matrimony — and detected there had prolonged been a family gossip of a child who had been adopted out, with a surname Crocker.

My whole life we felt like we was blank a sister.— Wendy Dunne

The same cousin began scouring other cousins’ Facebook profiles for anyone who resembled Michelle — and found a print of Wendy Dunne of Newfoundland and Labrador. Wendy and Michelle both had a family’s heading prematurely-white hair, and a lass name of Wendy’s mom Jeanette was Crocker.

“As shortly as we saw a photograph, we shook from conduct to foot,” Michelle said. “I never in my life had seen anybody who looked like me, let alone that much. Like it was literally my eyes in her head, and it was mind-boggling.” 

Wendy had a unequivocally identical reaction in N.L. when the cousin common a print of Michelle.

“I was like, ‘Yeah, she’s my sister. I have no doubt.’ At that point, we went, ‘You’re going to have to send me a DNA kit,'” she removed telling her cousin. 

After Wendy took a test, there were 4 weeks of waiting. Michelle said she calm herself from reaching out to Wendy and her birth mother. 

“It was like, ‘Let’s usually ensue solemnly and kindly here, since we competence be about to blow adult a family,'” Michelle said. 

Michelle said she’ll never forget logging onto a website to see a results, “full sister, Wendy Dunne.” 

She found out she also had a biological brother, Mark, and that her mom Jeanette Dunne (formerly Jeanette Crocker) was still alive and vital with Wendy in St. John’s. Their father Blaise died in 2011. 

Michelle and Wendy exchanged phone numbers and immediately began video-chatting. 

In St. John’s, Wendy had perceived a news from a DNA testing at work and was “thrilled.” She pronounced it usually took a few mins for her to leave a bureau and expostulate home to mangle a news to her mother.

“I pronounced ‘So, we know we have a sister,'” Wendy recalled. “And she started to cry. Then, we started to cry. Then, a review started.” 

“I consider we was half-prepared,” pronounced Jeanette. She had overheard some of Wendy’s communication with her cousin about DNA in prior weeks, yet hadn’t pronounced a word. She’d also reason a glance of Michelle’s print on Wendy’s computer. 

“And when we glanced during a design we thought, ‘Oh my God, I’m looking during myself,'” Jeanette said. 

Jeanette pronounced nonetheless a news done her happy, the initial few days she was too impressed to speak to Michelle. 

“It was a relief, initial of all,” Jeanette said, violation down in tears. “It was unequivocally emotional, and it still is to a good degree.” 

The many critical thing for Jeanette was that Mark and Wendy were OK with a news. 

‘I alone knew her’

The siblings began formulation to meet, and motionless Michelle would fly to St. John’s on Jan. 11. Michelle suggested they meet during her hotel rather than a airport.

“It was a many implausible impulse — we usually hugged any other and reason any other,” pronounced Michelle, on assembly her biological mother. “I alone knew her. She felt informed to me, right? we felt an evident tie to her. And we’ve missed a whole lives together.” 

Jeanette finally got to reason her, and pronounced there were a lot of tears.

She was in my heart all those years yet not in my arms.— Jeanette Dunne

“She was in my heart all those years yet not in my arms,” pronounced Jeanette, tearfully. She’s 75 and happy she’s alive to accommodate her eldest child.

The family talked for hours, too bustling to even take photos that initial day. The cousin who helped solve the poser also assimilated them, as she’d been serendipitously in St. John’s for work.

“My whole life we felt like we was blank a sister,” Wendy said. “I told Michelle, ‘I feel like we was watchful for we my whole life.'” 

‘It’s how things were behind then’

Jeanette was Catholic and 21, and usually as she finished nursing school, got profound out of wedlock, that she pronounced was “very taboo.” 

Her clergyman organised to have her sent to Charlottetown to a home for unwed mothers. She wasn’t authorised to see Michelle after she was born. 

“Families behind in those days were tighten to their church,” Jeanette said, who’s no longer Catholic. “I don’t unequivocally remember a accurate conversations that happened around it when we done it famous that we was pregnant. It’s all a small bit foggy, yet it’s how things were behind then.”

Jeanette’s knowledge was not unique. According to a Senate of Canada report, between 1945 and 1971 scarcely 600,000 supposed deceptive births were recorded, and many, if not many women vital in maternity homes, were pressured into surrendering their children for adoption.

Even yet she had married Michelle’s birth father and after had Wendy and Mark, Jeanette pronounced a integrate didn’t try to find their first-born — nonetheless she pronounced she mostly suspicion about her.

“It’s usually a approach it was,” Jeanette said. “You usually carried on with your life.” 

Michelle believes “there’s many to be remade here,” including an reparation from supervision and giveaway counselling services for those influenced by adoption trauma.

Taking it one day during a time

The family is looking brazen to saying any other again, and some-more members of a extended family wish to accommodate Michelle. 

Michelle skeleton to lapse to a province as shortly as possible.  

“I’m a Newfoundlander. It’s a best thing ever,” she said, with a laugh. She even mused on a probability of relocating there, observant “one North Atlantic windswept island to another isn’t unequivocally a large informative change.”  

For now, she pronounced a family is holding it one day during a time and saying “where a new trail is heading us all together.” 

For those deliberation a DNA exam to find relatives, Michelle recommends it “with a pellet of salt — if you’re looking for a angel tale, you’re not going to find it on a other end.” She praised a DNA contrast company for warning during any step that users be prepared for life-altering information. 

“Am we blissful it incited out this way? You’re damn true we am. It’s over my wildest expectations, yet we was prepared for whatever it was.”

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